Yesterday I visited the home of two bachelors in their late thirties maybe early forties. Both are very handsome men, athletic and successful-oh and did I mention extremely confident in their abilities to woo and romance women.
However, neither of them are currently in relationships and both say that they want something more serious. At least that’s what they are saying with their lips. Their bedrooms told me a slightly different story.
Luke, an avid mountain climber and daredevil, ended his last relationship becasue he felt like the girl had a big hole that needed to be filled and nothing he could do could fill it and boy did he try.
OK, so why are you attracting girls with holes to fill? What belief are you holding onto that would bring in that type of experience?
I found a clue in the relationship section of his room. By the way, in case you don’t know already, the relationship section is always in the far right hand corner of every room and the house (from the front door and the doors to every room.)
In Luke’s relationship corner was… and I kid you not, “A Crash Pad.” If you’re not familiar with that gadget is, let me tell you! A crash pad is used by mountain climbers as an intervention tool between them, the mountain and the ground. It’s so that if they fall from the mountain, the crash won’t be so bad, and their landing will be much softer.
Yikes, so in Luke’s mind (probably unconscious) he was setting himself up already for the inevitable “Crash” in his relationships. I mean he had the crash pad positioned on the other side of his bed and it was partially blocking a prospective partners entrance.
Luke says that this was the first time that he left, and that usually he stays and caretakes in this type of relationship. Kudos on that one Luke!
Perhaps on some level the “crash pad” was helping, but only to the extent of supporting the existing paradigm that he’s holding onto about relationships in general. In other words, he wouldn’t even be attracting women that needed to be fixed unless somewhere in him was the matching energy of “over-responsibility” and since I’m all about setting him to experience ultimate fulfillment, the “crash pad” has to go!
Moving the crash pad reinforces the already shift in his consciousness of attracting in healthier relationships.
In Jim’s Romance section we found a picture of his old girlfriend from Australia, from 7 years ago. She was in a little plastic zip lock bag, “But that relationship didn’t end poorly,” he said.
Doesn’t matter. Old picture, old girlfriend, old energy and thus no space for someone new. So the picture along with the crash pad went into storage.
Both men’s beds were not exactly in the “ideal Feng Shui” position either, which essentially means having the widest view of the room and the door from where you are sleeping and not being intersected with energy from the door. Yes, many Feng Shui books talk about positioning your bed facing north. That might work, but not at the expense of having a partial view of the door. Even cowboys knew that they had the most power and less chances of being killed when they had the widest vantage point.
For both men, the door was directly in alignment with the bed and the energy was cutting them somewhere between their hearts and their male genitalia.
My interpretation: You’re not fully integrated yet between heart/mind and pure physical attraction when it comes to making romantic choices in your love life and can sometimes be purely driven below the belt. Moreover, because you have to crank your head to see who is entering, this could be a sign of unforeseen events or a blind spot in you perceptual filter.
My next step is to get the guys to move their beds into the commanding/power position.
Wish Me Good Luck!