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Move Your Bed, Change Your Love life!/0 Comments/in Uncategorized /by admin
If you haven’t signed up already, please join me for this journey into the heart of your bedroom on Thursday June 21 at 5:30 PST. Read more
Happy Home, Happy Heart-Replay/0 Comments/in Uncategorized /by admin
We had a deeply moving and transformational call last night on The Year of the Dragon Tele-Seminar Series.
I led everyone in a special meditation at the end of the call called, “Happy Home, Happy Heart.”
Read some of the responses I’ve already received,
“I also had tears from the meditation; tears of JOY for all the
Sharing more love….Inessa’s Call this evening with Feng Shui guidance was amazing!!! I experienced the most profound healing from her guided meditation!!! I am applying all of the suggestions to my home tomorrow. I will listen to the re-play because I Know there was a wealth of information I feel that I missed. She has such a unique gift & niche. Wow, delighted, enlivened, and thoroughly grateful!!! Thank you to the hosts of this summit!!!! Infinite Blessings,
EXPERIENCE this meditation for Yourself…and all the wonderful tidbits of information that was shared.
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With Warmth, Love & Gratitude,
How Your Environment Impacts Your Practice!/0 Comments/in Office /by admin
If you have an office space and are seeing clients, as a healer, coach, therapist, masseuse, psychiatrist, doctor, lawyer, insurance agent, yoga instructor, nutritionist, etc, then it’s imperative that you bring your attention to your environment and how it may be impacting your practice.
My personal story about looking for a couples therapist in Miami, which highlights this theme was featured today on Dr. Eva Ritvo’s Blog on Psychology Today.
If you would like to know how to maximize your space for the deepest level of healing, please read this article. At the end there are questions that will help you start looking at your space from symbolic eyes! Also, please provide your comments. I would love to hear your feedback on this topic and it will help me spread my message of the importance of setting on psyche!
Sending amazing chi your way!
Have Fun with your Shway : )
Help Your Teen Get in Command of Their Life With Feng Shui!/0 Comments/in Office, Teens, Tips /by admin
TAKING THE COMMANDING POSITION with FENG SHUI
In Feng Shui, the position of the bed and desk can support your teen in feeling in command of their life, getting better sleep, increased focused, as well as confidence and more security in relationships!
Taking the Commanding Bed Position promotes security in relationship with self and others, as well an improves sleep. Follow these steps below for the ideal arrangement!
1. A full view of the room with the door in sight is optimal from where they are sleeping for feeling empowered.
2. Not being able to see the door triggers the old reptilian brain’s flight or fight response system and it basically leaves us feeling exposed, on guard and unsafe.
3. Make sure that the bed is against a solid wall for security and support.
4. Stay clear of placing bed under a window.
Taking the Commanding Desk Position encourages focus and concentration and will support your teen in feeling on top of their homework!
1. Make sure they are sitting in a chair with a straight back (no gaps)
2. Their back must be up against a solid wall (no window)
3. Clear view of the door from where they are sitting.
4. Don’t face a wall; this can create a sense blockage and stagnation.
Virtual Command Position: When your teen’s view of the door is obstructed they may be missing important opportunities since they can’t see what’s flowing in and out of their life. If you absolutely can’t change the position of your teen’s desk or bed, then help them get into the virtual command position. The virtual what? Virtual command means that you position a mirror in such a way so that you can see the door from wherever you’re sleeping or working.
There is a web site that sells rearview type mirrors for computers, which would put them in the virtual command position. Check www.monitormirror.com. However, any mirror will serve the same purpose-as long as you can see what’s behind you.
If you can’t figure this out, feel free to email me pictures of their room and I will give you feedback!
From Chaos to Cosmos: How You Can Help Your Teen Bring Order to their Bedroom one Shoe at a Time!/0 Comments/in Teens, Tips /by admin
Feng Shui is all about creating uplifting environments where we can thrive! Sometimes that means letting go of those things that no longer serve us. The objects in your teen’s room are either empowering or not empowering them and can effect everything from self-worth to productivity.
Clutter can stagnate energy and feels like an overall drain! Support your teen in moving into a deeper conscious relationship with their bedroom by educating them about the benefits of a clutter-free, mindfully-arranged bedroom.
Sometimes the best way to motivate your teen into making a change is by doing it yourself first! So if you haven’t done it already, be a role model and implement this step by step process.
Also, remember, when clearing clutter,turn on some music, put on your red shoes and have some fun! The way you do anything is the way you do everything. If you or your teen is saying, “Yuck I hate my room” while you are cleaning your home it takes away from your good Mojo and defeats the purpose!
1. Encourage your teen to ask these questions of every object in their room:
· Do I Love?
· Do I Need It?
· Does It Represent Me?
· Have I used it In the Last 6 Months?
If they don’t love it or use it, then it’s time to lose it!
2. Provide 5 Boxes for the Release!
Box 1: Throw Away
Box 2. Give Away, EBay
Box 3. Keep, But Store
Box 4. Not Sure. Anything your teen is unsure of goes into this box and gets stored away for 6 months. If after 6 month they can name what’s in the box, or have used any of the objects in the box, then they can keep them, if not, then they have to Lose it!
Box 5: Invite them to keep a Transitional Box somewhere in the room for things that seep in from other sections. Ask them to commit to checking the box once a week and putting things back in their respective homes, before overwhelm and chaos ensue.
3. Mindfully Arrange Your Room By Creating Clear Functional Zones
Name them like, “Sleep Zone,” “Work/Study Zone,” ” Art Zone”, etc. Identify which objects belong in their correct zones. This will help with creating clarity and balance in their mind between the various areas in their life as well as in their space. Make sure one zone always remains a “Clutter Free Zone,” as a foundation for future progress.
Make this process fun by encouraging your teen to invite friends for support, turn on music, have a release party, and set up a timeline for achieving their goal. Further help them by creating a budget for containers, cork boards, under bed storage units and anything else that will help them maintain the cosmos in their bedroom.
The All Powerful Entry Way/1 Comment/in Intentional Design, Overcoming Obstacles, Space as Metaphor for Life, Tips, Uncategorized /by admin
What surrounds your home can influence your Feng Shui as much as what is inside of your home.
Let me show you how to draw the positive energy of your surroundings to you!
One of the most important enhancements to creating optimal Feng Shui is the entry to your home.
Ideally, your front door area should be well lit, aesthetically pleasing, clearly indicated as the entry, inviting, charming, and give an impression of the home’s tenants. If your front door isn’t visible from the road, then its possible that the chi will pass you by.
Here are some Feng Shui power tools to activate the path leading up to your front door:
1. Illuminate the path of chi to your door with lanterns and lamps.
2. A greeter (statue) welcome good chi!
3. A water fountain invites abundance, opportunities and creates tranquility.
4. A Chime awakens the chi!
5. A healthy vibrant plant or tree by your front door will strengthen and draw good chi!
6. A friendly saying or door hanging invites both good chi and friendly people.
7. Clear dry shrubs, weeds, or anything unpleasant that may be weakening your chi.
8. Make sure there are no obstructions or anything blocking the door and your good chi.
9. The sound the door makes can condition your chi and experience of your home. Use oil/wd40 to counteract screechy whiny doors.
10. A bright red, gold, blue, or green floor mat will energize this area.
11. If you enter through the garage, make it a practice to enter through the front door regularly to keep the chi flowing and circulating.
12. If you live in an indoor apartment/condo building and there isn’t much you can do to the outside of your front door due to building regulations, then work to enhance the immediate foyer area by hanging a crystal, a mirror, a fountain and any of the above will work just as well to invite good chi into your life.
Remember having an inviting entry way can summon good chi and enhance your life force energy. Making it attractive draws in the energy you need to accomplish anything you want in life!
Beyond Feng Shui/0 Comments/in Intentional Design, Overcoming Obstacles, Tips, Uncategorized /by admin
Anytime you make a Feng Shui adjustment to your home, make sure to couple it with your intention. Intention is the motor behind Feng Shui.
As a matter of fact, I would say that Intention is the motor behind mostly everything. Before there was man, there was the creators’ intent for man.Before there were planes, car and computers there was mans’ intent for ways of making life easier and more efficient.
Many people don’t realize that they are practicing Feng Shui every day. Anytime you bring mindfulness to anything you do, you are practicing the art of placement.
By placing your attention onto your intention, all things flow to you and life becomes a river of abundance.
When I think about my life and how I use intention, my mind is drawn to those moments where I feel most stuck, overwhelmed, confused and hopeless. It is at those times that I go still, cease what ever I am doing, get in touch with myself trough my breath and ask the creator/universe for light, love and to lift me from the place inside where I feel funky.
Sometimes it happens right away and at other times I go about my day and a few hours pass annd I think, Wow, I’m feeling particularly good, how did this happen? Then I remember that moment where I practiced the art of Feng Shui. That moment were I placed my intention for the universe to lift my negativity and support me.
Next time you are feeling like you want to give up or like everything seems to be going wrong, stop what you are doing, take a breath, look inside and ask for divine assistance. You won’t regret it. I promise.
Feng Shui for your Office for Success!/0 Comments/in Intentional Design, Office, Tips /by admin
Whether you’re in a corner suite, a cubicle, or home office, Feng Shui can help you create more harmony, flow and productivity in your work. There are several excellent Feng Shui configurations that promote more success in your career
Here are 3 things you can do right now to promote more flow and harmony in your office
1. Place yourself in the Commanding position:In Feng Shui, the position of your desk can support you in feeling more empowered and in command of your life!
· Make sure to sit in a chair with a straight back (no gaps-they leak life force energy)
· Your back must be facing a solid wall (no window)
· Make sure you have a clear view of the door from where you are sitting.
· Don’t face a wall; this can create a sense of blockage and stagnation in your career. If there’s no way around it, then get a mirror or a picture that creates the illusion of depth and expansion .
· If you can’t change the position of your desk, then get into the virtual command position. The virtual what? The virtual command means that you position a mirror in such a way so that you can see the door from wherever you are sleeping or working. That way, you don’t actually have to move your location. There is a web site that sells rear view type mirrors for computers, which would put you in the virtual command position. Check www.monitormirror.com.However, any mirror will serve the same purpose-as long as you can see what’s behind you
2. If you’re Walls Could Talk What Would the Say about You?
Studies show that people know more about you from looking in your room for 15 seconds than talking with you at a party for 30 minutes. Use the walls in your office to send a powerful message about you.
· Impression Wall: Use the wall behind your desk to make a strong impression and send a message about you and/or
your company to the world.
· Mastery Wall: Make one wall or section of your office depict your skill and training. Items such as awards, certificates,
pictures of wise mentors and achievements work well here. In Feng Shui terms, the best area for this is the “Skills/Wisdom”
section, which is the right hand corner closest to the front door.
· Inspiration Wall/Area: Surround yourself with things you truly love. The best wall for inspiration is the one directly
in front of your desk. What you focus on grows, so use this wall to condition your thoughts in the direction of your desires.
3. Bring in the 5 elements: Water, Fire, Earth, Metal and Wood to create a human comfort zone.
Have you wondered why most office buildings include a park or an atrium? A happy worker is a productive worker. Proximity to nature affects our physiology in real measurable ways. In Feng Shui, that is why we strive to create nature indoors. Even if you feel like you are flooded with so much work that you don’t have the time to walk outside or muse over your fish tank, or the well groomed bonsai, do not feel deterred, by having touches of nature in your environment, you can re-connect to the natural world in a very real, deep and meaningful way.
Here are some ways of introducing these elements into your office:
· Water: Encourages flexibility, intuition, and new opportunities. Use a water fountain, a picture of water closest to the entry way, or in the far left hand corner.
· Wood: Secures foundation in all ventures. Plants, bamboo and live flowers will bring in life force energy and a wooden desk will give stability in relationships.
· Metal: Inspires creativity. Introduce bells, standing chimes, or anything that makes a pleasant sound.
· Earth: Ensures Stability through difficult times. Ceramics, yellow, sand, rocks, etc.
· Fire: Improves and protects reputation. Candles, lights, pointy objects like cactus, pyramids, etc
Last, but not least, make sure your desk is clutter fee. The most successful people in the world have clean desks. The less stuff on your desk the more space in your mind for generating brilliant new ideas!
AGHHH STUFF THAT 5 LETTER WORD!/0 Comments/in Clutter /by admin
Stuff, Stuff, Stuff!!! Who doesn’t have at least one thing they cant live without? Whether it be your Starbucks latte in the morning that makes you 10 minutes late for work, or those Jimmy Choo shoes on sale at Sacks that you absolutely must have, or another little black dress to add to your collection of cocktail attire, we all have at least one piece of “STUFF” that
we hold onto for dear life!
If you’re anything like me, you have two or more. Come to think about it you may have 4 or more.
I’m talking here about the old pictures you hang onto and never look at that are in the garage, or worse under your bed, or how about the clothing from 1960 that you keep around for your grandchildren, the stuffed animals from childhood, the poetry from your former flames that reminds you of how hot you “used to be”, and all the Journals from 5th grade that are holding you in some form of adolescence, and wait what about all of those socks that have lost their mates, but you know that one day some day you will find the other pair, so you have a collection of onzees for an eternity. Not to mention your single status has been on place for just about as long.
In Feng Shui, the quality of your chi (life force energy) determines the quality of your life, which is determined by the quality of your….
I’m not talking about the Bugs Bunny kind of animation folks!
Environmental animation is likened to really good Chi, like really good sushi vs. grocery quality.
Chi is everywhere and it’s not like you are ever at a loss. It’s just that some chi is more “animated” and some is.. well I hate to use this word, but DEAD!
When I walk into peoples homes, I can clearly see the quality of their chi in their living environments. Animated chi has an overall purpose and a lively joyful quality, wheres dead chi would rather be dead, pun definitely intended.
Here are some basic mathematical equations of Feng Shui that will help you in working through your Stuff.
- Stuff = energy
- Energy doesn’t always = stuff
- The more energy you have, the better you feel=all of the time!
- The more stuff you have, the better you feel=never, or short lived
- Things you love = Mucho Animation
- Things you don’t=DEAD ENERGY
Clutter =DEAD ENERGY
- More space=more energy=more opportunities, money, cool experiences, people, travel, rest,peace, well-being etc
- Less Space = More of the same
James Hillman, a great modern day psychologist
contended that non-human objects also have souls. I know its hard to process that your Coach hand bag has a soul, or that your shag slippers your ex gave you have one too, but I’m not kidding you. I believe it was Thomas Moore who said that all objects contain a motor quality, which means they are running and some are running out of gas, so make sure you can tell the difference.
Caveat: For those people that have a more serious problem and have either classified themselves or been professionally diagnosed with “Hoarding”, then my Simple Clutter Busters Tips below may not be enough to support your healing and growth at this time. I have been in homes where the degree of stuff grows in proportion to a persons level of mental/emotional/physical and spiritual well-being and you may need more support.
If you find that your attachment with your stuff is overpowering you , please visit the resource page below for help:
Bust your Stuff Baby! 3 Steps to Clear the Clutter
- Do I need it?
- Do I love it?
- Does it make me feel good?
- Does it support my intention or inspire me?
- Does it belong here (if not move it to where it does!)
- Have I used it in the last 6 months?
If the Answer is “NO” then…………
Give it away, throw it away or ebay!
If the Answer is “I don’t know” then…..
Put it in a box date it, come back in 6 months with a trusted friend and if you can’t name everything in that box then its “Clutter” and give, throw or ebay.
3. If the Answer is “Yes” then… it’s a “Lovable” and you can Keep it!!
***If your stuff feels bigger then you, please grab a chair, or a latter and literally get “bigger” then your stuff. Tell the stuff who is boss and decide that you want to live a life full of freedom, joy, bills, abundance and ANIMATED CHI!