Help Your Teen Get in Command of Their Life With Feng Shui!



In Feng Shui, the position of the bed and desk can support your teen in feeling in command of their life, getting better sleep, increased focused, as well as confidence and more security in relationships!

Taking the Commanding Bed Position promotes security in relationship with self and others, as well an improves sleep. Follow these steps below for the ideal arrangement!


1.    A full view of the room with the door in sight is optimal from where they are sleeping for feeling empowered.

2.    Not being able to see the door triggers the old reptilian brain’s flight or fight response system and it basically leaves us feeling exposed, on guard and unsafe.

3.    Make sure that the bed is against a solid wall for security and support.

4.    Stay clear of placing bed under a window.

Taking the Commanding Desk Position encourages focus and concentration and will support your teen in feeling on top of their homework! 

1.    Make sure they are sitting in a chair with a straight back (no gaps)

2.    Their back must be up against a solid wall (no window)

3.    Clear view of the door from where they are sitting.

4.    Don’t face a wall; this can create a sense blockage and stagnation.

Virtual Command Position:  When your teen’s view of the door is obstructed they may be missing important opportunities since they can’t see what’s flowing in and out of their life. If you absolutely can’t change the position of your teen’s desk or bed, then help them get into the virtual command position. The virtual what? Virtual command means that you position a mirror in such a way so that you can see the door from wherever you’re sleeping or working.

There is a web site that sells rearview type mirrors for computers, which would put them in the virtual command position. Check However, any mirror will serve the same purpose-as long as you can see what’s behind you.


If you can’t figure this out, feel free to email me pictures of their room and I will give you feedback!

From Chaos to Cosmos: How You Can Help Your Teen Bring Order to their Bedroom one Shoe at a Time!

Feng Shui is all about creating uplifting environments where we can thrive! Sometimes that means letting go of those things that no longer serve us. The objects in your teen’s room are either empowering or not empowering them and can effect everything from self-worth to productivity.

Clutter can stagnate energy and feels like an overall drain! Support your teen in moving into a deeper conscious relationship with their bedroom by educating them about the benefits of a clutter-free, mindfully-arranged bedroom.

Sometimes the best way to motivate your teen into making a change is by doing it yourself first! So if you haven’t done it already, be a role model and implement this step by step process.

Also, remember, when clearing clutter,turn on some music, put on your red shoes and have some fun! The way you do anything is the way you do everything. If you or your teen is saying, “Yuck I hate my room” while you are cleaning your home it takes away from your good Mojo and defeats the purpose!


1.      Encourage your teen to ask these questions of every object in their room:

·         Do I Love?

·         Do I Need It?

·         Does It Represent Me? 

·         Have I used it In the Last 6 Months?


 If they don’t love it or use it, then it’s time to lose it!


2.      Provide 5 Boxes for the Release!

Box 1: Throw Away

Box 2. Give Away, EBay

Box 3. Keep, But Store

Box 4. Not Sure. Anything your teen is unsure of goes into this box and gets stored away for 6 months.  If after 6 month they can name what’s in the box, or have used any of the objects in the box, then they can keep them, if not, then they have to Lose it!

Box 5: Invite them to keep a Transitional Box somewhere in the room for things that seep in from other sections. Ask them to commit to checking the box once a week and putting things back in their respective homes, before overwhelm and chaos ensue.

3.      Mindfully Arrange Your Room By Creating Clear Functional Zones

Name them like, “Sleep Zone,”  “Work/Study Zone,” ” Art Zone”, etc.  Identify which objects belong in their correct zones. This will help with creating clarity and balance in their mind between the various areas in their life as well as in their space.  Make sure one zone always remains a “Clutter Free Zone,” as a foundation for future progress.

Make this process fun by encouraging your teen to invite friends for support, turn on music, have a release party,  and set up a timeline for achieving their goal. Further help them by creating a budget for containers, cork boards, under bed storage units and anything else that will help them maintain the cosmos in their bedroom.

50% off on Feng Shui Makeovers For Your Teen Through the Month of Nov, 2009! Learn more:


Does this look Familiar?

Here are Some of the Super Fab benefits Your Teen Will Receive from a Feng Shui Bedroom Makeover!

  • Strengthen their self confidence and self-esteem
  • Give them a sense of security, well being and belonging
  • Open their creativity and self-expression
  • Set them up for academic excellence and interpersonal success
  • Improve relationship with self/family and friends
  • Enhance organization in room and increasing mindfulness
  • Create a clearer sense of self and direction
  • Awaken Inner Power and accesses self-expression

The Ideal Teen…

· Is ready to make a positive change in some area of their life, i.e., self esteem, peer pressure, self worth, balance, body image, grades, friends, relationships, parents, clutter, etc.

· Is open to using their bedroom as a tool for empowerment!

· Is open to receiving coaching!

For parents who might be struggling during the current economic times, I am offering 50% off of the regular hourly rate pf  $150/hour! Thus only $75/hour through the month of Nov!

If you would like more info or are ready to schedule a session, please contact me at the numbers or email below!
Inessa Freylekhman, MA
Feng Shui Consultant, Relationship Coach & Teen Empowerement Trainer
310.926.2722 CA
425.894.1783 WA

Complimentary Feng Shui Makeovers for Teenagers!

Receive A Complimentary Feng Shui Bedroom Makeover!


Seeking 3-4 more Teens (13-18) who who would like to be supported with transforming their bedrooms and manifesting their goals!

Why: Did you know that your bedroom is contributing to you either feeling funky or fantastic?

Here are Some of the Super Fab benefits of Receiving a Feng Shui Bedroom Makeover!

  • Revamp your Self Image!
  • Finish incomplete projects
  • Feel awesome about yourself!!
  • Attract the Right Friends!
  • Set yourself up for success in school and work
  • And Much More!

I have been supporting individuals for 9 years in creating more balance in their homes and lives and would love the opportunity to support you!

When: I will be in LA from 8/24-9/10 for sessions usually lasting 2-4 hours.

Who: The Ideal Teen…

· Has some sort of clutter issues in their bedroom

· Is ready to make a positive change in some are of their life, i.e., self esteem, peer pressure, self worth, balance, body image, grades, friends, relationships, parents, clutter, etc.

· Is open to using their bedroom as a tool for empowerment!

· Is open to receiving coaching!

How: If you like to be considered for this complimentary makeover and for more information about what it all entails, then please email me your name and age and phone number and I will contact you and your parents, or call me and I will provide you with all of the details!!!

Only teens in WA and CA will be considered.

Inessa Freylekhman, MA
Feng Shui Consultant,Relationship & Teen Coach, Author, Educator,
310.926.2722 CA
425.894.1783 WA


Some Feng Shui Testimonials from my clients…..


“Thanks to Inessa, there is now a palbably peaceful and well-intentioned energy grid in my home.  She has a very encouraging and coolly refined touch, and it was really fun getting feng shui’d.  I love this new spatial connectivity in my home, and it has helped me in leaps and bounds with all the freed up positive energy I have for my life.  It’s like a new guiding philosophy and I love it.”-Kevin Wile, Filmmaker, USM Grad


“ I call her the Mary Poppins of Feng Shui. She immediately spotted the weak
areas in my home, and in my life, and using a combination of USM
skills and Feng Shui art, suggested “remedies” that call me into a
deeper conscious relationship with myself and my world. I now feel
much better at my desk – my holy space for writing and creating – as
well as generally in my home. I highly recommend that you give
yourself this gift!”

Elana Golden,USM Grad,  Screenwriter, director, teacher, Founder of The Writing Studio

“I had the fortunate opportunity of working with Inessa to Feng Shui my home to bring in a new relationship. I was amazed that we were able to work over the phone using photos and floor plan. I really enjoyed her insight, humor, and knowledge. Over the years I had picked up some information about Feng Shui, but after my first session with Inessa, it was very clear that her skill and love of the craft exceeded anything that I knew. Each week I was able to look at my life and see how my living space was contributing to what I am creating. We worked most on my bedroom and now every time I walk into my room I feel the difference and I am reminded of the intentions I have set forward for my life and relationships. If you are thinking about exploring Feng Shui, I would absolutely recommend Inessa. It was a real treat to work with her.”   

– Anita Coats, USM Grad


“Sweet Inessa is nothing less than a miracle worker! After resisting her Fung Shui for more than a few months, I

have finally decided to give her a shot. Now, faster than I have ever imagined, all my dreams are manifesting

right in front of me!!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I am forever grateful!!!

One HAPPY & JOYFULL Customer, Lauren Gale, Author

Studies Find that TV in the Bedroom is a Major Obstacle to a Teenager’s Success in Life!


You’ve heard it before, Im sure, that having a TV in the bedroom is a major Feng Shui faux pas. Not only does it emit a harmful EMF (electromagnetic field) that zaps your life force energy, but it literally creates a distraction from experiencing more intimacy with a partner, and can keep your brain fried and proccessing all night long and leaving you with little or no sleep.

To top it off, now studies are showing that , “Teenagers with a bedroom television tend to have poorer diet and exercise habits and lower grades in school than those without one, U.S. researchers said on Monday.”

Read this informative article and get that TV out of your teenager’s bedroom!