Help Your Teen Get in Command of Their Life With Feng Shui!



In Feng Shui, the position of the bed and desk can support your teen in feeling in command of their life, getting better sleep, increased focused, as well as confidence and more security in relationships!

Taking the Commanding Bed Position promotes security in relationship with self and others, as well an improves sleep. Follow these steps below for the ideal arrangement!


1.    A full view of the room with the door in sight is optimal from where they are sleeping for feeling empowered.

2.    Not being able to see the door triggers the old reptilian brain’s flight or fight response system and it basically leaves us feeling exposed, on guard and unsafe.

3.    Make sure that the bed is against a solid wall for security and support.

4.    Stay clear of placing bed under a window.

Taking the Commanding Desk Position encourages focus and concentration and will support your teen in feeling on top of their homework! 

1.    Make sure they are sitting in a chair with a straight back (no gaps)

2.    Their back must be up against a solid wall (no window)

3.    Clear view of the door from where they are sitting.

4.    Don’t face a wall; this can create a sense blockage and stagnation.

Virtual Command Position:  When your teen’s view of the door is obstructed they may be missing important opportunities since they can’t see what’s flowing in and out of their life. If you absolutely can’t change the position of your teen’s desk or bed, then help them get into the virtual command position. The virtual what? Virtual command means that you position a mirror in such a way so that you can see the door from wherever you’re sleeping or working.

There is a web site that sells rearview type mirrors for computers, which would put them in the virtual command position. Check However, any mirror will serve the same purpose-as long as you can see what’s behind you.


If you can’t figure this out, feel free to email me pictures of their room and I will give you feedback!

From Chaos to Cosmos: How You Can Help Your Teen Bring Order to their Bedroom one Shoe at a Time!

Feng Shui is all about creating uplifting environments where we can thrive! Sometimes that means letting go of those things that no longer serve us. The objects in your teen’s room are either empowering or not empowering them and can effect everything from self-worth to productivity.

Clutter can stagnate energy and feels like an overall drain! Support your teen in moving into a deeper conscious relationship with their bedroom by educating them about the benefits of a clutter-free, mindfully-arranged bedroom.

Sometimes the best way to motivate your teen into making a change is by doing it yourself first! So if you haven’t done it already, be a role model and implement this step by step process.

Also, remember, when clearing clutter,turn on some music, put on your red shoes and have some fun! The way you do anything is the way you do everything. If you or your teen is saying, “Yuck I hate my room” while you are cleaning your home it takes away from your good Mojo and defeats the purpose!


1.      Encourage your teen to ask these questions of every object in their room:

·         Do I Love?

·         Do I Need It?

·         Does It Represent Me? 

·         Have I used it In the Last 6 Months?


 If they don’t love it or use it, then it’s time to lose it!


2.      Provide 5 Boxes for the Release!

Box 1: Throw Away

Box 2. Give Away, EBay

Box 3. Keep, But Store

Box 4. Not Sure. Anything your teen is unsure of goes into this box and gets stored away for 6 months.  If after 6 month they can name what’s in the box, or have used any of the objects in the box, then they can keep them, if not, then they have to Lose it!

Box 5: Invite them to keep a Transitional Box somewhere in the room for things that seep in from other sections. Ask them to commit to checking the box once a week and putting things back in their respective homes, before overwhelm and chaos ensue.

3.      Mindfully Arrange Your Room By Creating Clear Functional Zones

Name them like, “Sleep Zone,”  “Work/Study Zone,” ” Art Zone”, etc.  Identify which objects belong in their correct zones. This will help with creating clarity and balance in their mind between the various areas in their life as well as in their space.  Make sure one zone always remains a “Clutter Free Zone,” as a foundation for future progress.

Make this process fun by encouraging your teen to invite friends for support, turn on music, have a release party,  and set up a timeline for achieving their goal. Further help them by creating a budget for containers, cork boards, under bed storage units and anything else that will help them maintain the cosmos in their bedroom.

The All Powerful Entry Way

What surrounds your home can influence your Feng Shui as much as what is inside of your home.

Let me show you how to draw the positive energy of your surroundings to you!


One of the most important enhancements to creating optimal Feng Shui is the entry to your home.

Ideally, your front door area should be well lit, aesthetically pleasing, clearly indicated as the entry, inviting, charming, and give an impression of the home’s tenants. If your front door isn’t visible from the road, then its possible that the chi will pass you by.

Here are some Feng Shui power tools to activate the path leading up to your front door:

1. Illuminate the path of chi to your door with lanterns and lamps.

2. A greeter (statue) welcome good chi!

3.  A water fountain invites abundance, opportunities and creates tranquility.

4. A Chime awakens the chi!

5. A healthy vibrant plant or tree by your front door will strengthen and draw good chi!

6. A friendly saying or door hanging invites both good chi and friendly people.

7. Clear dry shrubs, weeds, or anything unpleasant that may be weakening your chi.

8. Make sure there are no obstructions or anything blocking the door and your good chi.

9. The sound the door makes can condition your chi and experience of your home. Use oil/wd40 to counteract screechy whiny doors.

10.  A bright red, gold, blue, or green floor mat will energize this area.

11. If you enter through the garage, make it a practice to enter through the front door regularly to keep the chi flowing and circulating.

12. If you live in an indoor apartment/condo building and there isn’t much you can do to the outside of your front door due to building regulations, then work to enhance the immediate foyer area by hanging a crystal, a mirror, a fountain and any of the above will work just as well to invite good chi into your life.

Remember having an inviting entry way can summon good chi and enhance your life force energy. Making it attractive draws in the energy you need to accomplish anything you want in life!

Beyond Feng Shui


Anytime you make a Feng Shui adjustment to your home, make sure to couple it with your intention. Intention is the motor behind Feng Shui.

As a matter of fact, I would say that Intention is the motor behind mostly everything. Before there was man, there was the creators’ intent for man.Before there were planes, car and computers there was mans’ intent for ways of making life easier and more efficient.

Many people don’t realize that they are practicing Feng Shui every day. Anytime you bring mindfulness to anything you do, you are practicing the art of placement.

By placing your attention onto your intention,  all things flow to you and life becomes a river of abundance.

When I think about my life and how I use intention, my mind is drawn to those moments where I feel most stuck, overwhelmed, confused and hopeless. It is at those times that I go still, cease what ever I am doing, get in touch with myself trough my breath and ask the creator/universe for light, love and to lift me from the place inside where I feel funky.

Sometimes it happens right away and at other times I go about my day and a few hours pass annd I think, Wow, I’m feeling particularly good, how did this happen? Then I remember that moment where I practiced the art of Feng Shui. That moment were I placed my intention for the universe to lift my negativity and support me.

Next time you are feeling like you want to give up or like everything seems to be going wrong, stop what you are doing, take a breath, look inside and ask for divine assistance. You won’t regret it. I promise.

Feng Shui for your Office for Success!

Whether you’re in a corner suite, a cubicle, or home office, Feng Shui can help you create more harmony, flow and productivity in your work. There are several excellent Feng Shui configurations that promote more success in your career

Here are 3 things you can do right now to promote more flow and harmony in your office

1.    Place yourself in the Commanding position:In Feng Shui, the position of your desk can support you in feeling more empowered and in command of your life!

·         Make sure to sit in a chair with a straight back (no gaps-they leak life force energy)

·         Your back must be facing a solid wall (no window)

·         Make sure you have a clear view of the door from where you are sitting.

·         Don’t face a wall; this can create a sense of blockage and stagnation in your career. If there’s no way around it, then get a mirror or a picture that creates the illusion of depth and expansion .

·         If you can’t change the position of your desk, then get into the virtual command position. The virtual what? The virtual command means that you position a mirror in such a way so that you can see the door from wherever you are sleeping or working. That way, you don’t actually have to move your location. There is a web site that sells rear view type mirrors for computers, which would put you in the virtual command position. Check, any mirror will serve the same purpose-as long as you can see what’s behind you


2.    If you’re Walls Could Talk What Would the Say about You?

Studies show that people know more about you from looking in your room for 15 seconds than talking with you at a party for 30 minutes. Use the walls in your office to send a powerful message about you.

·         Impression Wall: Use the wall behind your desk to make a strong impression and send a message about you and/or

           your company to the world.

·         Mastery Wall:  Make one wall or section of your office depict your skill and training. Items such as awards, certificates,

          pictures of  wise mentors and achievements work well here. In Feng Shui terms, the best area for this is the “Skills/Wisdom”

          section, which is the right hand corner closest to the front door.

·               Inspiration Wall/Area: Surround yourself with things you truly love. The best wall for inspiration is the one directly

                 in front of your desk. What you focus on grows, so use this wall to condition your thoughts in the direction of your desires.


3.    Bring in the 5 elements: Water, Fire, Earth, Metal and Wood to create a human comfort zone.


Have you wondered why most office buildings include a park or an atrium? A happy worker is a productive worker. Proximity to nature affects our physiology in real measurable ways. In Feng Shui, that is why we strive to create nature indoors. Even if you feel like  you are flooded with so much work that you don’t have the time to walk outside or muse over your fish tank, or the well groomed bonsai, do not feel deterred, by having touches of nature in your environment, you can re-connect to the natural world in a very real, deep and meaningful way.

Here are some ways of introducing these elements into your office:

·         Water: Encourages flexibility, intuition, and new opportunities. Use a water fountain, a picture of water closest to the entry way, or in the far left hand corner.

·         Wood: Secures foundation in all ventures. Plants, bamboo and live flowers will bring in life force energy and a wooden desk will give stability in relationships.

·         Metal: Inspires creativity. Introduce bells, standing chimes, or anything that makes a pleasant sound.

·         Earth: Ensures Stability through difficult times. Ceramics, yellow, sand, rocks, etc.

·         Fire: Improves and protects reputation. Candles, lights, pointy objects like cactus, pyramids, etc

Last, but not least, make sure your desk is clutter fee. The most successful people in the world have clean desks. The less stuff on your desk the more space in your mind for generating brilliant new ideas!

Summer is Almost Here, Turn Up the Chi and Have Some Fun!


Summer is the ultimate Yang Month and it’s on its way. Yang is an energy that supports all creative endeavors, outdoor activities,travel, new and reignited romance, optimal health and well being, as well as an overall good mood and fun!

In Feng Shui, summer is also associated with the color red, and the element of fire and the gua (area) called, “Fame, Reputation, Courage, Vitality, Image and Persona.” It’s really about letting your light shine and stepping into your greatest self!

Invite summer into your home right now by appealing to your 5 senses!

1.       Visual: Introduce pictures of great summer trips from the past, beach, sun shine, yellow and happy things. Also make room for all of the great summer pictures you will take this year!

2.       Olfactory: Scent is the fastest way to ignite your passion and zest for life! Regularly throw the trash out, have your carpet cleaned, and add natural summer scents to your home like jasmine and dried lavender and orchid. Citrus aroma therapy is divine and will bring fresh and fun to your home.

3.       Tactile:  I’m all about the style, but if you substitute aesthetics for comfort, your good chi will dwindle.  Create an area that you can totally lounge in. That might even mean getting a hammock  or a super comfy lounge chair where you can chillax. Also, Introducing Sea shells/rocks and sand will bring the warm summer feel right into your home.

4.       Sound: What do you hear? Are the sounds from squeaky, doors, leaky faucets, or rickety hardwood flooring getting on your nerves. Fix those right now and feel embraced by the sounds of the ocean, soothing wind chimes, a water fountain, or a CD with the sound of tropical animals. Make simple fixes to create soulful summer sounds.

5.       Taste: When is the last time you used your kitchen?  Kitchens are super important in Feng Shui terms and represent your creativity and abundance. Cook up a storm and literally let those creative juices flow into every area of your life by making and enjoying these refreshing Summer Drinks:

·         Ice tea with raspberries and lemon.

·         Blend Coconut juice and meat with mint and Agave.

·         Juice cucumber, Melon, Celery and kiwi!


Hit me Up With that Chi! Are you ready to bring your home to its next level of well being and inspiration? Want to spend more time in those good vibrations?

Hanging art, decorations, chimes, whirly gigs, crystals, stars, tapestries, etc, high up on the wall will help you strive for the best and reach for your dreams!



Inessa Freylekhman